I am on board with every single thing that you say in the body of this essay, but boy do I wish you'd picked a different headline. I think you did yourself a disservice with the one you chose, because it at least obfuscates and at worst misrepresents the points the text actually makes. The headline sounds like you're saying that female socialization doesn't exist, which understandably causes defensive reactions from people who have personally experienced it.

But the essay, if you read all the way through (and obviously the defensive commenters I see here did not, or did not process it), actually repeatedly acknowledges the existence of what we call 'female socialization' -- it just explains all the ways in which it is not a universal experience amongst all afab people, or even limited to afab people. The universality is the myth, not the socialization.